Dating Dilemma #2: Wacky Conversation Topics on a First Date: Aliens & Bigfoot? Really?
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Ruby Rider 🚲💖
From: Ruby Rider 🚲🌳
To: GiGi The Dating Guru 
Subject: Help! My Date Won’t Stop Talking About Aliens 🛸
Hey Gigi 🥺,
I need your sage advice! So, I’m out here in Portland, living my best life as a bicycle shop owner (my baby, Two Wheels and a Dream 🚴♀️), where the coffee is strong, and the rain is frequent. Life’s been pretty sweet—my shop’s booming, I’m part of a local cycling club that takes scenic rides every Sunday morning, and when I’m not riding, I’m either knee-deep in my backyard veggie garden 🌱 or crafting the most epic latte art at my fave café ☕. But there’s just one thing missing… love.
I’ve been diving back into the dating pool, and wow, Gigi, it’s a wild ride! Last weekend, I met this guy, let’s call him “Mr. Stars in His Eyes” 🌌. On paper, he seemed perfect—tall, kind eyes, a knack for cooking gourmet grilled cheese, and a quirky sense of humor that I thought would be the perfect match for my offbeat Portland vibe.
We met at this cool little pub, and after the initial chit-chat, things took a sharp left turn. We were talking about our favorite movies when suddenly, he’s on this deep dive about aliens, government cover-ups, and how he’s 99.9% sure Bigfoot lives in his uncle’s backyard up in Washington 😳.
Don’t get me wrong, I love a good conspiracy theory as much as the next gal, but it was like the floodgates opened, and for the next hour, I was nodding along while he passionately explained why Area 51 is just a distraction from the “real” stuff going on. All I wanted was to get to know him better, but all I got was a crash course in Cryptozoology 101.
Now, I’m left wondering—do I keep seeing him and hope he tones it down, or do I politely say “Beam me up, Scotty” and move on to the next? Help, Gigi! I want someone to talk to about life, dreams, and maybe even the best way to care for tomato plants—not if the Moon landing was faked! 😅
Looking for guidance from your infinite dating wisdom!
Hugs,
Ruby Rider
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Did You Know? 25%
Turns out, 25% of Americans believe in at least one conspiracy theory, according to the Pew Research Center. So if your date starts chatting about UFOs or secret plots, you’re definitely not the only one who’s met someone a little out there! 🚀
GiGi the Dating Guru
From: GiGi The Dating Guru
To: Ruby Rider💖
Subject: Help! My Date Won’t Stop Talking About Aliens 🛸
Hi Ruby Rider💖,
First off, kudos to you for putting yourself out there and diving into the dating scene with such an adventurous spirit! I’m thrilled to hear about your vibrant life in Portland—your bike shop sounds like a dream, and I can already imagine those serene Sunday rides. But let’s talk about Mr. Stars in His Eyes and his cosmic conversations.
It’s not uncommon to run into a date who’s a bit…enthusiastic about their interests. While it’s endearing to see someone passionate, it can become overwhelming when their focus is galaxies away from where you’d like it to be. We all want a partner who shares our interests—or at least takes a genuine interest in them. It’s important to balance the conversation, and it sounds like Mr. Stars might need a gentle nudge back to Earth.
Red Flags Before the Date
Here are a few signs to watch out for, so you can spot a potential “Nerdy Topic Enthusiast” before you’re knee-deep in extraterrestrial theories:
Over-the-Top Profiles: If their dating profile mentions aliens, conspiracy theories, or any niche hobbies as a central theme, expect those topics to dominate your conversations.
Overzealous Texting: If they send long, detailed messages about obscure topics before you even meet, it’s a sign they might steer the date in that direction too.
Too Much, Too Soon: If on the first call, they dive deep into unusual hobbies or theories, prepare for more of the same in person.
Unusual First Date Spots: A date at a UFO-themed diner or a conspiracy documentary screening might be a fun experience, but it’s also a clue about where their interests lie.
How to Handle Nerdy Topics on a Date
Steer the Conversation: Politely redirect the topic back to something you both can enjoy. For example, “That’s interesting! What are your thoughts on [insert your interest]?”
Set Boundaries: It’s okay to let them know that while their passion is fascinating, you’d love to chat about something different too.
Stay Curious (But Grounded): Ask questions that help you understand their enthusiasm, but keep the conversation balanced with topics that resonate with you.
Make Light of It: Humor can be a great way to diffuse a one-sided conversation. “You’ve got the alien thing covered—how about we chat about what’s happening here on Earth?”
Be Honest: If it’s too much, it’s okay to be upfront. “I’m really enjoying getting to know you, but I’d love to talk about some other things too.”
Gigi’s Final Thoughts
Sometimes, people lean on their niche interests because they’re nervous, or they feel it’s a way to impress or connect. While it’s sweet, it’s also important to have conversations that are mutual and enjoyable for both. If Mr. Stars in His Eyes is a genuinely good guy, it might be worth giving him a second chance with a little guidance. However, if he’s too stuck in his world, it’s okay to move on and find someone who’s a better fit for the long haul.
So, my dear Ruby Rider, take the reins on your dating journey! If Mr. Stars is willing to explore other conversational galaxies with you, great! If not, there are plenty of other fish in the sea (or should I say, stars in the sky?). Keep pedaling forward—you’ll find someone who shares your love of both bicycles and down-to-earth conversations.
Wishing you joy in every dating adventure,
GiGi
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